I did not anticipate kicking off my blog with two back to back military related posts, but here we are. If you read my last blog post, I'll remind you how truly honored I am to be a military wife and the respect that I have for the men and women that choose to serve our country. Not to sound dismissive in any way, but Memorial Day didn't hold a whole lot of weight to me until I married an Airman - perhaps it's the selfish millennial in me. Yesterday, however, I was forced into looking at Memorial Day in a different way when I received a little bit of backlash for captioning my latest TikTok video, "Happy Memorial Day weekend everybody!"
A couple of people pointed out that saying "Happy Memorial Day" was inappropriate, since Memorial Day is not a happy day. Now let me say, that I fully understand what Memorial Day is for - to honor our fallen soldiers - and I understand there truly is nothing happy about losing someone, especially those brave enough to serve. Let me also say, that I know there will always be people on the internet with an opinion different than yours. I actually was not offended when I read these comments, in fact, they gave me pause. And now I have a couple questions...
Firstly, do you think it's wrong to say "Happy Memorial Day?" I posed this question on my Instagram story later in the evening after I posted this controversial TikTok (of Baby Addilyn dancing) and received a resounding, no. Granted, I'm not sure if one of my followers would speak up if they disagreed. But I do certainly see the side of those that might answer, yes. To me though, why I believe this phrasing isn't inappropriate is because I believe Memorial Day is a time to celebrate our heroes, even those that are no longer with us. Perhaps it's easy for me to say that because I have never lost someone in the line of duty. But I feel that it is because of these heroes that we are able to celebrate in freedom, and for that, I am very happy.
So now here comes the big, broad question...when did we all become so offended? I, as a millennial, am guilty of being a part of, what I believe to be, one of the most easily offended generations (did I offend you by saying that?). And I'm confused how this happened. Although my jumping on the TikTok bandwagon rather quickly might say otherwise, I have always felt like a non-millennial millennial. Maybe it was because I was raised by parents born in 1957. By no means am I saying I'm better than my strong, proud, and loud generation, but to quote Brooks from The Shawshank Redemption, "The world went and got itself in a big hurry." And here so many people are, so quick to get offended.
As a mother I pray that I will raise my daughter to have thick skin, to consider other people's perspectives, but to also not get too hung up on pleasing everyone. Because at the end of they day, you can't.
What are your thoughts on all of this? Would love to hear your perspective in the comments below.